Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to see Dr. Strange in the Multiverse of Madness today or this weekend? Give me your no spoilers thoughts down below and your full spoilers thoughts to my DM’s because I’ve already seen it and I absolutely loved it! Everyone was fantastic but Elizabeth Olsen’s performance was incredible! I can’t wait to see what you all think! 

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This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowe This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowers, trying new foods, and meeting new clients! 💐🌺💃🏽
Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a movie, a comedian, a funny friend, or yourself. Laughter can stimulate your organs, reduce stress, and even strengthen your immune system. In our stressful world, I try to make sure I do it every day. Three things that are always guaranteed to make me laugh are The Guardians of the Galaxy, John’s corny dad jokes, and Valkyrie’s morning “talk” that she likes to have with me every day. What is something that is always guaranteed to make you laugh? 

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Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s w Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s what I have so far:

☀️ Spending time on both of Florida’s coasts 
☀️ Visiting fresh springs
☀️ Boating on the lake and the ocean
☀️ Visiting at least three state parks
☀️ Enjoying movies when it’s too hot to be outside 

What’s on yours? 🏝🏄🏽🏊🏼‍♀️⛱🛟⛵️

📸: @joshyytbh
Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Than Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Thank you for being such an awesome and supportive partner, an adventurous and hilarious best friend, and now, my favorite co-worker! From traveling to theme parking to running our businesses together, I’m so thankful for every moment we get to spend together. I’m so happy and thankful to be married to someone who is so kind, smart, funny, sensitive, giving, and nerdy. And who can cook like an actual chef. 😍 I celebrate how amazing you are daily but I love this time of year when we get to celebrate even more! Thank you for making marriage so fun and easy, thank you for making my life better by being a part of it, and thank you for laughing with me until our sides hurt.
Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldp Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldpittie! We are so lucky to have you! 🤍🐾🍀

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I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watchi I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watching movies, and laughing with friends. I’m so thankful for these cool spring days and I hope we have more of them this month! 

#springvibes #orlando #orlandoflorida #flowers #flowerandgardenfestival #floridaflowers #springinflorida #thingstodoinorlando #flowerqueen #visitorlando #springforward #springiscoming #springflowers #seekjoy #hyggelife #slowliving #intentionalliving
So thankful to have views like this in my backyard So thankful to have views like this in my backyard. I’m trying to walk as much as possible this month because I know soon it’s going to be extremely hot and I’ll only want to walk when the sun is completely down. So for now, I’m enjoying these sunsets and cooler temperatures. 

#floridaliving #floridalife #palmtrees #sunsetlovers #orlandoflorida #orlandoliving #orlandolife #tropicalvibes #tropicallife #orlando #plantlife #colorfulskies #colorfulliving #pastelsky #igersorlando #igers_orlando #minimalist #seekjoy #joyfulmoments
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Uncategorized · November 20, 2013

Competition and Comparison

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We live in a society that constantly encourages competition and comparison. Women especially are encouraged to be more attractive than their friends, a better cook, craftier, nicer, and just better in any way imaginable. Whether it is comparing boobs or books read, many women constantly compare themselves to others.

 

You don’t know that person’s strengths, weaknesses, or history.

What many people forget when they are comparing themselves to others is that they have no idea where that person started out or what all their strengths and weaknesses are. The boss you compare yourself to may get more vacation time and a better salary but they also may have had to work weekends for years to get to where they are now. Maybe your neighbor is in perfect shape but she also may not be as good at painting as you are. Maybe your coworker just won employee of the month but maybe they had to sacrifice a lot of time with their significant other to win that title. Everyone has a different story when it comes to meeting his or her goals in life. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. No one has a life that is completely perfect.

 

You don’t know that persons insecurities.

It is very possible that the people you are comparing yourself to may wish they were better at some of the things that you are amazing at. Everyone has their own insecurities. Even the most beautiful and successful people among us find themselves feeling insecure from time to time. It is fine to feel that way every once in a while but it is important to quickly remember that you are an amazing individual with a unique skill set to offer the world.

 

The competition is in your head.

In our social media obsessed world, it is easy to look up what our peers or others in our industry are up to and compare ourselves to them. So many people get locked into an imaginary competition with people they have never even met in person but may follow on twitter or instagram. At the end of the day, the competition is all in your head. If you are not rocking the best outfit next time you are out with your friends, life will go on. If your coworkers numbers are higher than yours this week, you can still turn things around the following week. Just because some of the moms at your school always look put together, doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you not looking perfect all of the time. If you have personal goals that are important to you, focus on those goals instead of focusing on other people. Whether or not they reach those goals before you does not change your chances to meet them or the satisfaction you should receive after meeting them. The more time you spend in an imaginary competition, the less time you can actually spend getting better.

 

Compete with yourself.

It is often said that the only person you should be competing with is yourself. At the end of each day, your time would be better spent focusing on yourself than others. If at the end of each day, you have become better than you were the day before, then you are making great progress. Becoming the best version of yourself means honestly admitting where you are with your goals and working every day to bridge the gap from who you were yesterday to who you will be tomorrow.

 

 

Chances are you are already pretty great so focus on what you love about yourself, change what you don’t love, and work everyday to be the best version of you that you can possibly be. After all, there is no one on earth who is better than being you than you!

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Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to see Dr. Strange in the Multiverse of Madness today or this weekend? Give me your no spoilers thoughts down below and your full spoilers thoughts to my DM’s because I’ve already seen it and I absolutely loved it! Everyone was fantastic but Elizabeth Olsen’s performance was incredible! I can’t wait to see what you all think! 

#multiverseofmadness #scarletwitch #drstrange #marvelstudios #marvelmovies #drstrangeinthemultiverseofmadness #wandamaximoff #wandavision #americachavez #missamerica #samraimi #marvelcomics #mcu #marveluniverse
May the Fourth be with you! 👽🚀 #maythe4thbe May the Fourth be with you! 👽🚀

#maythe4thbewithyou #maythefourthbewithyou #starwarsday #milleniumfalcon #batuu #galaxysedge #starwars #blackgirlmagic #disneylife #disneyparks #starwarsfan #maytheforcebewithyou
This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowe This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowers, trying new foods, and meeting new clients! 💐🌺💃🏽
Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a movie, a comedian, a funny friend, or yourself. Laughter can stimulate your organs, reduce stress, and even strengthen your immune system. In our stressful world, I try to make sure I do it every day. Three things that are always guaranteed to make me laugh are The Guardians of the Galaxy, John’s corny dad jokes, and Valkyrie’s morning “talk” that she likes to have with me every day. What is something that is always guaranteed to make you laugh? 

#seekjoy #joyfulmoments #happyday #beachvibes #beachbum #beachlife #polynesianresort #disneyspolynesianresort #disneygirl #disneycreators #disneyfan #disneylover #ilivewhereyouvacation #happyblackwoman #blackgirlmagic #blackgirldisney #disblerd #blackdisneyblogger #overdressed #princesscore #cottagecore #princessvibes #summervibes #beachlove
Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s w Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s what I have so far:

☀️ Spending time on both of Florida’s coasts 
☀️ Visiting fresh springs
☀️ Boating on the lake and the ocean
☀️ Visiting at least three state parks
☀️ Enjoying movies when it’s too hot to be outside 

What’s on yours? 🏝🏄🏽🏊🏼‍♀️⛱🛟⛵️

📸: @joshyytbh
Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Than Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Thank you for being such an awesome and supportive partner, an adventurous and hilarious best friend, and now, my favorite co-worker! From traveling to theme parking to running our businesses together, I’m so thankful for every moment we get to spend together. I’m so happy and thankful to be married to someone who is so kind, smart, funny, sensitive, giving, and nerdy. And who can cook like an actual chef. 😍 I celebrate how amazing you are daily but I love this time of year when we get to celebrate even more! Thank you for making marriage so fun and easy, thank you for making my life better by being a part of it, and thank you for laughing with me until our sides hurt.
Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldp Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldpittie! We are so lucky to have you! 🤍🐾🍀

#adoptdontshop #adoptabully #dogsofinstagram #rescuedog #pitbullsofinstagram #pitbulls #pitbulllove #pitbullmom #emotionalsupportanimal #dogsofinsta #dogstagram
I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watchi I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watching movies, and laughing with friends. I’m so thankful for these cool spring days and I hope we have more of them this month! 

#springvibes #orlando #orlandoflorida #flowers #flowerandgardenfestival #floridaflowers #springinflorida #thingstodoinorlando #flowerqueen #visitorlando #springforward #springiscoming #springflowers #seekjoy #hyggelife #slowliving #intentionalliving
So thankful to have views like this in my backyard So thankful to have views like this in my backyard. I’m trying to walk as much as possible this month because I know soon it’s going to be extremely hot and I’ll only want to walk when the sun is completely down. So for now, I’m enjoying these sunsets and cooler temperatures. 

#floridaliving #floridalife #palmtrees #sunsetlovers #orlandoflorida #orlandoliving #orlandolife #tropicalvibes #tropicallife #orlando #plantlife #colorfulskies #colorfulliving #pastelsky #igersorlando #igers_orlando #minimalist #seekjoy #joyfulmoments
I’m already missing Epcot’s Festival of the Ar I’m already missing Epcot’s Festival of the Arts! My favorite parts are always enjoying the sidewalk chalk and getting know the artists that are there in person. It’s definitely my favorite festival and I’m already looking forward to the next one. Have you been to the Festival of the Arts? Which festival is your favorite? 

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