Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to see Dr. Strange in the Multiverse of Madness today or this weekend? Give me your no spoilers thoughts down below and your full spoilers thoughts to my DM’s because I’ve already seen it and I absolutely loved it! Everyone was fantastic but Elizabeth Olsen’s performance was incredible! I can’t wait to see what you all think! 

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This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowe This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowers, trying new foods, and meeting new clients! 💐🌺💃🏽
Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a movie, a comedian, a funny friend, or yourself. Laughter can stimulate your organs, reduce stress, and even strengthen your immune system. In our stressful world, I try to make sure I do it every day. Three things that are always guaranteed to make me laugh are The Guardians of the Galaxy, John’s corny dad jokes, and Valkyrie’s morning “talk” that she likes to have with me every day. What is something that is always guaranteed to make you laugh? 

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Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s w Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s what I have so far:

☀️ Spending time on both of Florida’s coasts 
☀️ Visiting fresh springs
☀️ Boating on the lake and the ocean
☀️ Visiting at least three state parks
☀️ Enjoying movies when it’s too hot to be outside 

What’s on yours? 🏝🏄🏽🏊🏼‍♀️⛱🛟⛵️

📸: @joshyytbh
Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Than Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Thank you for being such an awesome and supportive partner, an adventurous and hilarious best friend, and now, my favorite co-worker! From traveling to theme parking to running our businesses together, I’m so thankful for every moment we get to spend together. I’m so happy and thankful to be married to someone who is so kind, smart, funny, sensitive, giving, and nerdy. And who can cook like an actual chef. 😍 I celebrate how amazing you are daily but I love this time of year when we get to celebrate even more! Thank you for making marriage so fun and easy, thank you for making my life better by being a part of it, and thank you for laughing with me until our sides hurt.
Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldp Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldpittie! We are so lucky to have you! 🤍🐾🍀

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I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watchi I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watching movies, and laughing with friends. I’m so thankful for these cool spring days and I hope we have more of them this month! 

#springvibes #orlando #orlandoflorida #flowers #flowerandgardenfestival #floridaflowers #springinflorida #thingstodoinorlando #flowerqueen #visitorlando #springforward #springiscoming #springflowers #seekjoy #hyggelife #slowliving #intentionalliving
So thankful to have views like this in my backyard So thankful to have views like this in my backyard. I’m trying to walk as much as possible this month because I know soon it’s going to be extremely hot and I’ll only want to walk when the sun is completely down. So for now, I’m enjoying these sunsets and cooler temperatures. 

#floridaliving #floridalife #palmtrees #sunsetlovers #orlandoflorida #orlandoliving #orlandolife #tropicalvibes #tropicallife #orlando #plantlife #colorfulskies #colorfulliving #pastelsky #igersorlando #igers_orlando #minimalist #seekjoy #joyfulmoments
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Personal · January 29, 2018

It’s Time To Retire The Pink Pussyhat

Every direction I looked in, I saw a sea of people. At 5’4, I couldn’t see far enough out into the crowd to know what was going on beyond a few feet ahead of me. If I was anywhere else I would have had a panic attack. But with my friends and family, surrounded by feminists, I handled the crowd pretty well. After all, we were all there for the same reason. Or at least I thought we were.

My cousin crocheted a pink pussy hat for me. I tried to learn how to crochet but it proved to be more challenging and less relaxing than I anticipated. With the march only a week and a half away, it seemed like a better option to accept defeat and have her make one for me. At first, it didn’t dawn on me that the pussyhats were pink because they represent white vaginas. It’s an easy conclusion to draw but I’m black and assumed pink was chosen because it is often associated with femininity. Three minutes at the Women’s March and I understood otherwise…vagina was the star of this show.

More women than I had ever seen in my entire life paraded posters throughout the march that featured ovaries, uterus, and vaginas. Women in all of the art I saw, whether clothed or otherwise, were white. At first I carried my pink pussyhat not wanting to wear it and deal with the aftermath of my curly tresses. But the deeper I went into the rally, the more the idea of putting it on just didn’t feel quite right.

There was a lot to process at the march. It was without a doubt one of the most memorable experiences of my life and I’m so thankful that I was able to be there. It also was an opportunity for me to witness first hand what needs to be worked on to make this space more inclusive.

Empowering people with vaginas is great but do we need the symbol of an equality movement to be a pink pussy hat? Not all women have vaginas, uteruses, or ovaries and not all pussies are pink. I understand the pussy hat originally serving as a response the Nacho Nazi’s “grab them by the pussy” comment but it doesn’t need to represent the entire movement. I also understand how important it is to normalize vaginas and stop acting as if they are this complex mystery, only really here to serve men. However, I believe we can still educate people on the female reproductive system and stand up for our rights without centering the entire movement around the pink pussyhat. The march and feminism as a whole is about so much more than white vaginas.

I’ve heard suggestions of creating new hats that are various shades of pinks and browns. While this takes a step towards being inclusive of women of color, it is still completely isolating to trans people. Both trans women and femme people belong in this movement as much as anyone else. Statistics show that trans people need a safe space more than anyone else as they are killed in higher numbers than any other group of people. Sometimes trans women and femme people have vaginas and sometimes they do not. Either way it is none of our business to know but completely our business to include them in our feminism.

Not everyone was at the Women’s March for the reasons I was. Not everyone wants equality for all women. Some women are happy to just find equality for themselves, bridging the pay gap and getting the healthcare they deserve, and then leaving other groups of marginalized women to fend for themselves after receiving their help. They are not concerned with police brutality or bathroom bills. This certainly isn’t the case for all white woman and I would say that more white women are trying to practice intersectional feminism than those who are complicit with white supremacy. With that being said, it’s incredibly important to check our privilege constantly and continue evolving. Wanting to practice intersectional feminism isn’t the same as actually practicing it.

At the time, maybe you didn’t realize why the pussyhats were pink. Maybe you want to be an ally for LGBTQ* but you failed to remember that not all women have the same parts as you. Now you know, so now it’s time to do better. Let’s create a feminism movement that is intersectional, inclusive, and intentional. Let’s think before we speak, act, or create so we can evaluate whether what we are adding to the conversation around feminism is truly intersectional. Put down your pussyhat, pick up a stack of books on feminism and a willingness to learn from others, and let’s get to work!

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Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to see Dr. Strange in the Multiverse of Madness today or this weekend? Give me your no spoilers thoughts down below and your full spoilers thoughts to my DM’s because I’ve already seen it and I absolutely loved it! Everyone was fantastic but Elizabeth Olsen’s performance was incredible! I can’t wait to see what you all think! 

#multiverseofmadness #scarletwitch #drstrange #marvelstudios #marvelmovies #drstrangeinthemultiverseofmadness #wandamaximoff #wandavision #americachavez #missamerica #samraimi #marvelcomics #mcu #marveluniverse
May the Fourth be with you! 👽🚀 #maythe4thbe May the Fourth be with you! 👽🚀

#maythe4thbewithyou #maythefourthbewithyou #starwarsday #milleniumfalcon #batuu #galaxysedge #starwars #blackgirlmagic #disneylife #disneyparks #starwarsfan #maytheforcebewithyou
This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowe This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowers, trying new foods, and meeting new clients! 💐🌺💃🏽
Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a movie, a comedian, a funny friend, or yourself. Laughter can stimulate your organs, reduce stress, and even strengthen your immune system. In our stressful world, I try to make sure I do it every day. Three things that are always guaranteed to make me laugh are The Guardians of the Galaxy, John’s corny dad jokes, and Valkyrie’s morning “talk” that she likes to have with me every day. What is something that is always guaranteed to make you laugh? 

#seekjoy #joyfulmoments #happyday #beachvibes #beachbum #beachlife #polynesianresort #disneyspolynesianresort #disneygirl #disneycreators #disneyfan #disneylover #ilivewhereyouvacation #happyblackwoman #blackgirlmagic #blackgirldisney #disblerd #blackdisneyblogger #overdressed #princesscore #cottagecore #princessvibes #summervibes #beachlove
Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s w Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s what I have so far:

☀️ Spending time on both of Florida’s coasts 
☀️ Visiting fresh springs
☀️ Boating on the lake and the ocean
☀️ Visiting at least three state parks
☀️ Enjoying movies when it’s too hot to be outside 

What’s on yours? 🏝🏄🏽🏊🏼‍♀️⛱🛟⛵️

📸: @joshyytbh
Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Than Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Thank you for being such an awesome and supportive partner, an adventurous and hilarious best friend, and now, my favorite co-worker! From traveling to theme parking to running our businesses together, I’m so thankful for every moment we get to spend together. I’m so happy and thankful to be married to someone who is so kind, smart, funny, sensitive, giving, and nerdy. And who can cook like an actual chef. 😍 I celebrate how amazing you are daily but I love this time of year when we get to celebrate even more! Thank you for making marriage so fun and easy, thank you for making my life better by being a part of it, and thank you for laughing with me until our sides hurt.
Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldp Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldpittie! We are so lucky to have you! 🤍🐾🍀

#adoptdontshop #adoptabully #dogsofinstagram #rescuedog #pitbullsofinstagram #pitbulls #pitbulllove #pitbullmom #emotionalsupportanimal #dogsofinsta #dogstagram
I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watchi I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watching movies, and laughing with friends. I’m so thankful for these cool spring days and I hope we have more of them this month! 

#springvibes #orlando #orlandoflorida #flowers #flowerandgardenfestival #floridaflowers #springinflorida #thingstodoinorlando #flowerqueen #visitorlando #springforward #springiscoming #springflowers #seekjoy #hyggelife #slowliving #intentionalliving
So thankful to have views like this in my backyard So thankful to have views like this in my backyard. I’m trying to walk as much as possible this month because I know soon it’s going to be extremely hot and I’ll only want to walk when the sun is completely down. So for now, I’m enjoying these sunsets and cooler temperatures. 

#floridaliving #floridalife #palmtrees #sunsetlovers #orlandoflorida #orlandoliving #orlandolife #tropicalvibes #tropicallife #orlando #plantlife #colorfulskies #colorfulliving #pastelsky #igersorlando #igers_orlando #minimalist #seekjoy #joyfulmoments
I’m already missing Epcot’s Festival of the Ar I’m already missing Epcot’s Festival of the Arts! My favorite parts are always enjoying the sidewalk chalk and getting know the artists that are there in person. It’s definitely my favorite festival and I’m already looking forward to the next one. Have you been to the Festival of the Arts? Which festival is your favorite? 

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