Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to see Dr. Strange in the Multiverse of Madness today or this weekend? Give me your no spoilers thoughts down below and your full spoilers thoughts to my DM’s because I’ve already seen it and I absolutely loved it! Everyone was fantastic but Elizabeth Olsen’s performance was incredible! I can’t wait to see what you all think! 

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This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowe This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowers, trying new foods, and meeting new clients! 💐🌺💃🏽
Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a movie, a comedian, a funny friend, or yourself. Laughter can stimulate your organs, reduce stress, and even strengthen your immune system. In our stressful world, I try to make sure I do it every day. Three things that are always guaranteed to make me laugh are The Guardians of the Galaxy, John’s corny dad jokes, and Valkyrie’s morning “talk” that she likes to have with me every day. What is something that is always guaranteed to make you laugh? 

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Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s w Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s what I have so far:

☀️ Spending time on both of Florida’s coasts 
☀️ Visiting fresh springs
☀️ Boating on the lake and the ocean
☀️ Visiting at least three state parks
☀️ Enjoying movies when it’s too hot to be outside 

What’s on yours? 🏝🏄🏽🏊🏼‍♀️⛱🛟⛵️

📸: @joshyytbh
Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Than Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Thank you for being such an awesome and supportive partner, an adventurous and hilarious best friend, and now, my favorite co-worker! From traveling to theme parking to running our businesses together, I’m so thankful for every moment we get to spend together. I’m so happy and thankful to be married to someone who is so kind, smart, funny, sensitive, giving, and nerdy. And who can cook like an actual chef. 😍 I celebrate how amazing you are daily but I love this time of year when we get to celebrate even more! Thank you for making marriage so fun and easy, thank you for making my life better by being a part of it, and thank you for laughing with me until our sides hurt.
Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldp Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldpittie! We are so lucky to have you! 🤍🐾🍀

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I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watchi I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watching movies, and laughing with friends. I’m so thankful for these cool spring days and I hope we have more of them this month! 

#springvibes #orlando #orlandoflorida #flowers #flowerandgardenfestival #floridaflowers #springinflorida #thingstodoinorlando #flowerqueen #visitorlando #springforward #springiscoming #springflowers #seekjoy #hyggelife #slowliving #intentionalliving
So thankful to have views like this in my backyard So thankful to have views like this in my backyard. I’m trying to walk as much as possible this month because I know soon it’s going to be extremely hot and I’ll only want to walk when the sun is completely down. So for now, I’m enjoying these sunsets and cooler temperatures. 

#floridaliving #floridalife #palmtrees #sunsetlovers #orlandoflorida #orlandoliving #orlandolife #tropicalvibes #tropicallife #orlando #plantlife #colorfulskies #colorfulliving #pastelsky #igersorlando #igers_orlando #minimalist #seekjoy #joyfulmoments
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Uncategorized · October 30, 2013

Just Say No

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Ever wake up in the morning feeling like you have a million things to do yet none of them are really for you? I have been feeling that way most mornings lately. I have to tell you, it is not a great feeling. When you are exhausted at the end of then day, it is nice to know that you accomplished something fantastic.

One of the biggest hurdles I face in my life, is just saying no. It is interesting that I have been through so much in my life yet saying no seems to be my major dilemma. I am not sure exactly when it started or where it stems from but ever since I can remember, no has not been a part of my vocabulary when it comes to friends and family. It is not that I mind doing favors for the people I care about…in fact it is just the opposite, I love it! However when it starts to interfere with my business and school, it becomes a problem. Everyone tends to think of me as some sort of superwoman and since I never let on how stressed I am, they continue asking for things.

It recently occurred to me that if I don’t feel like I have my life in balance now, it will only be that much more difficult when I have children. Although I don’t plan on having children any time soon, I think it is important that I reach a certain balance in my life before I begin to even think about it.

This is going to require me saying no more often. I have to remind myself that I can be a good wife, friend, daughter, and sister without doing so much that it effects my business and school. I can be a good person without taking on more than I can handle. If someone asks me to do something that I am fantastic at and I would enjoy, it is perfectly acceptable to say yes. If someone asks me to do something that I can get done in a reasonable amount of time, there is no problem with saying yes. If someone asks me to do something that completely stresses me out and ensures that I will have to play catch up with my business or school, I can and should say no.

My goal is to start saying no to unreasonable requests such as, “I know I have asked you last minute the last five times but can you baby sit my kids in two hours so I can go to a party?” and “Would you mind driving thirty minutes out of the way to pick me up for our lunch date so I can save gas and can you also pay because I forgot my wallet for the third time?” and especially, “Can you find me a job in a field that you know nothing about with a large salary and lots of vacation days? Also, make sure they pay for my relocation. Be sure to exhaust any resources you have.”

I need to just say no to these kind of requests and learn to help people in a way that brings me happiness. When you help others in a way that is positive for both you and them, the rewards are much greater for both of you. There is no need to live a life full of stress because you are handing everyone else’s problems. There is nothing wrong with being honest and upfront about the favors you can happily take on and the ones you are just going to have to say no to.

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Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to Happy Multiverse of Madness Day! Are you headed to see Dr. Strange in the Multiverse of Madness today or this weekend? Give me your no spoilers thoughts down below and your full spoilers thoughts to my DM’s because I’ve already seen it and I absolutely loved it! Everyone was fantastic but Elizabeth Olsen’s performance was incredible! I can’t wait to see what you all think! 

#multiverseofmadness #scarletwitch #drstrange #marvelstudios #marvelmovies #drstrangeinthemultiverseofmadness #wandamaximoff #wandavision #americachavez #missamerica #samraimi #marvelcomics #mcu #marveluniverse
May the Fourth be with you! 👽🚀 #maythe4thbe May the Fourth be with you! 👽🚀

#maythe4thbewithyou #maythefourthbewithyou #starwarsday #milleniumfalcon #batuu #galaxysedge #starwars #blackgirlmagic #disneylife #disneyparks #starwarsfan #maytheforcebewithyou
This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowe This weekend was the perfect mix of smelling flowers, trying new foods, and meeting new clients! 💐🌺💃🏽
Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a Take the time to laugh today. Whether it’s at a movie, a comedian, a funny friend, or yourself. Laughter can stimulate your organs, reduce stress, and even strengthen your immune system. In our stressful world, I try to make sure I do it every day. Three things that are always guaranteed to make me laugh are The Guardians of the Galaxy, John’s corny dad jokes, and Valkyrie’s morning “talk” that she likes to have with me every day. What is something that is always guaranteed to make you laugh? 

#seekjoy #joyfulmoments #happyday #beachvibes #beachbum #beachlife #polynesianresort #disneyspolynesianresort #disneygirl #disneycreators #disneyfan #disneylover #ilivewhereyouvacation #happyblackwoman #blackgirlmagic #blackgirldisney #disblerd #blackdisneyblogger #overdressed #princesscore #cottagecore #princessvibes #summervibes #beachlove
Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s w Already planning my summer bucket list. Here’s what I have so far:

☀️ Spending time on both of Florida’s coasts 
☀️ Visiting fresh springs
☀️ Boating on the lake and the ocean
☀️ Visiting at least three state parks
☀️ Enjoying movies when it’s too hot to be outside 

What’s on yours? 🏝🏄🏽🏊🏼‍♀️⛱🛟⛵️

📸: @joshyytbh
Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Than Happy birthday to my favorite human on earth. Thank you for being such an awesome and supportive partner, an adventurous and hilarious best friend, and now, my favorite co-worker! From traveling to theme parking to running our businesses together, I’m so thankful for every moment we get to spend together. I’m so happy and thankful to be married to someone who is so kind, smart, funny, sensitive, giving, and nerdy. And who can cook like an actual chef. 😍 I celebrate how amazing you are daily but I love this time of year when we get to celebrate even more! Thank you for making marriage so fun and easy, thank you for making my life better by being a part of it, and thank you for laughing with me until our sides hurt.
Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldp Happy Gotcha Day to my best girl, @valkyrieshieldpittie! We are so lucky to have you! 🤍🐾🍀

#adoptdontshop #adoptabully #dogsofinstagram #rescuedog #pitbullsofinstagram #pitbulls #pitbulllove #pitbullmom #emotionalsupportanimal #dogsofinsta #dogstagram
I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watchi I had a beautiful weekend smelling flowers, watching movies, and laughing with friends. I’m so thankful for these cool spring days and I hope we have more of them this month! 

#springvibes #orlando #orlandoflorida #flowers #flowerandgardenfestival #floridaflowers #springinflorida #thingstodoinorlando #flowerqueen #visitorlando #springforward #springiscoming #springflowers #seekjoy #hyggelife #slowliving #intentionalliving
So thankful to have views like this in my backyard So thankful to have views like this in my backyard. I’m trying to walk as much as possible this month because I know soon it’s going to be extremely hot and I’ll only want to walk when the sun is completely down. So for now, I’m enjoying these sunsets and cooler temperatures. 

#floridaliving #floridalife #palmtrees #sunsetlovers #orlandoflorida #orlandoliving #orlandolife #tropicalvibes #tropicallife #orlando #plantlife #colorfulskies #colorfulliving #pastelsky #igersorlando #igers_orlando #minimalist #seekjoy #joyfulmoments
I’m already missing Epcot’s Festival of the Ar I’m already missing Epcot’s Festival of the Arts! My favorite parts are always enjoying the sidewalk chalk and getting know the artists that are there in person. It’s definitely my favorite festival and I’m already looking forward to the next one. Have you been to the Festival of the Arts? Which festival is your favorite? 

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