My first dining experience at the Flying Fish was My first dining experience at the Flying Fish was a success! I loved everything from the food to the service to the atmosphere but what really blew me away was the dessert. As always, I chose the chocolate option on the menu, and I was certainly not disappointed. This is definitely one of the best things I’ve eaten on Walt Disney World property and one of the best desserts I’ve had in general. If you are a fan of chocolate, you definitely need to try it during your next visit! 

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Goodbye, January 2023! You’ve been such a wonder Goodbye, January 2023! You’ve been such a wonderful month for me! 🤍 This year, for the first time ever, I decided to start the year off with a focus on only myself. I spent a large part of January celebrating my birthday this year! From delicious dinners and coffee dates to hiking and surprise secret adventures, this month has been full of celebrating and I’ve embraced every single moment of it. After a few years of not feeling quite like myself due to anxiety and depression, it’s great to feel like ME AGAIN! 🎉 I love her and she’s BACK, BABY! In addition to celebrating myself as much as possible, I also honored my mental, physical, and spiritual needs with lots of rest, intentional movement, meditation, and reflection. 

My word for 2023 is community and now that I feel like myself again, I’m so excited to spend the year pouring into my community, while still remembering to fill up my own cup first. 

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Snapshots from a beautiful day spent with friends Snapshots from a beautiful day spent with friends who always make my heart happy. Plus a small snippet of me being overjoyed at getting the tiny seat at the back of the train. 
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I love being able to explore all of the little pat I love being able to explore all of the little paths that exist in Animal Kingdom. All of the gorgeous greenery in this park makes me feel happy, balanced, and calm. Whether it’s a quiet moment at a waterfall, watching birds enjoy the beautiful weather, or trying to see how many different types of plants I can spot, it’s such a peaceful place to spend the day. 🌳🤍

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Started the year off with some adventure! 🌿🍃 Started the year off with some adventure! 🌿🍃🌳

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Just some random joyful moments from 2022. 🤍✨ Just some random joyful moments from 2022. 🤍✨

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Our last closing of 2022! 🎉🎉🎉 So thankfu Our last closing of 2022! 🎉🎉🎉

So thankful to help purchase this 8 bedroom, 6 bathroom, 4034 square foot pool home for our client. This was the perfect way to end an amazing year of growth, challenges, and blessings in our careers.

We are so excited for all the home sales and purchases we will get to be a part of in 2023 and we can’t thank all of our clients enough for trusting us to help make your home related dreams come true! 🏡 

#floridarealestate #floridahomes #orlandohome #orlandoliving #floridarealtor #floridarealestateagent #floridalife #realestateinvestor #orlandolife #movetoorlando #movetoflorida #orlandolocal #floridalocal #buysell #buysellhomes #homebuying #homebuyingprocess #localorlando
Have you been to Animal Kingdom Lodge yet this hol Have you been to Animal Kingdom Lodge yet this holiday season? 🎄 There’s still time! We loved the addition of the gingerbread animals this year and I hope they keep adding to the display. 🦒🦓 The Christmas tree in the main lobby is one of my favorites on property and I’m always a fan of the bread service at Sanaa. 🫓🍽️🌶️

#animalkingdomlodge #christmasdecor #christmastree #christmasdecorations #christmasvibes #christmasseason #disneyworld #wdw #waltdisneyworld #disney #disneygram #disneyparks #disneyfood #disneyblogger #disneyresort #sanaa #orlandothemeparks #themeparks #gingerbreadcookies @disneyparks @waltdisneyworld
These “snow bubbles” smelled like hot cocoa. C These “snow bubbles” smelled like hot cocoa. Christmas magic indeed! Don’t forget to check out The Lights on Jeater Bend in Celebration during its last year ever! It’s free and oh so fun! 

🎄☃️🎄☃️🎄☃️🎄☃️🎄☃️🎄

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Personal · May 21, 2014

Married without Children

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Evidence that John and I actually DO love children. (You know, outside of John being a teacher and me working in the school system for five years). 
 
 1. John and our nephew, Alijah on our last trip to Miami. 2. John and I with our Goddaughter at the Magic Kingdom after watching the 3 o’clock parade. 3. Reading a book we gave our Goddaughter. She LOVES Minnie Mouse! 4. Me and my younger brothers. Our seven and a half year age gap means that I spent a lot of time taking care of them. One of my brothers even gets me Mother’s Day gifts to thank me! Isn’t that sweet?
 

This July, John and I will celebrate five years of wedded bliss and October will mark our nine-year anniversary as a couple. Even with these milestones ahead of us, John and I still do not have plans for children in the immediate future. This is of no major concern to neither John nor I, as we both currently love our relationship, our careers, our traveling plans, our family, our friends, and our lives. However, there are some people who simply cannot wrap their heads around the idea that John and I have chose to wait to have children or the fact that some couples choose not to have children at all.

It didn’t take long for people to start questioning me about when I am going to have children. I feel like I barely made it down the aisle before people were questioning when I would enter motherhood. While many people would ask if it is something we have thought about and accept that we are currently not interested, others have been much more persistent.

One of the reasons that John and I do not currently have children is that we are both really busy in our careers. Neither of us wants to take any time off at such critical points in our careers. Also, despite loving what we do for a living, we both would like to earn more money before having children. Even after voicing these concerns, we are often met with statements like, “You will never have enough money for children” and “You’ll just have to make time”. People often insinuate that it is impossible to put enough money away to be comfortable with your decision to have a child and that there is no way that there will ever be a right time. I know that many couples get pregnant before they plan to and they can definitely find a way to make it work. However, I also know couples whom have planned, saved money, had children at a time that worked best for them, and are very happy with the results of that decision. Regardless of what people end up doing, I feel like it is a deeply personal choice that should be made by the two people who will be raising the child.

Even worse than the pressure to “just have a kid, already”, are the people who assume that I am not able to biologically have children. Time and time again I have been asked if I am infertile. To my knowledge I am not but I can’t imagine how devastating it must be for someone to be asked that question who is infertile and desperately wants a biological child. If people are asking me this question, they are undoubtedly asking it of someone who actually is struggling with this. Why someone would think it is appropriate to ask a woman who they do not know all that well about her fertility remains a mystery to me. What I also find interesting is that no one is interested in questioning John’s ability to conceive. In fact, most people assume that I am infertile or I don’t want a child when really, I think John is less enthusiastic about having children in the near future than I am.

My favorite is when I answer every question with as much information as I can and stand by my decision to not have children yet and my answers are met with a threat: “Just watch. It is going to happen anyways. You can’t control it.” Now I am not a scientist or a doctor but the general consensus is that many forms of birth control are highly effective when used properly. I have quite a few friends and family members who have had unexpected but happy pregnancies and all but one was not properly using birth control. Is it possible that it could happen to John and I? Sure. Is it probable? Not really. Should you laugh in the face of someone who doesn’t currently want children and tell them it doesn’t matter what they want? Not at all.

Whether we have children next year or five years from now, I will be sure to only involve John and I in the decision making process. We already plan to adopt at least one child and I know that with that will come a new set of ridiculous questions and demands. In the mean time, we will continue to be surrounded by the awesome children of our friends and family, the students that John teachers, and the high school students that I mentor. Luckily, we both know that you don’t need to have your own children in order to believe that children are wonderful.

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We are so excited for all the home sales and purchases we will get to be a part of in 2023 and we can’t thank all of our clients enough for trusting us to help make your home related dreams come true! 🏡 

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