Happy Monday! I am obsessed with this illustration Happy Monday! I am obsessed with this illustration that the talented and gorgeous @callmeadventurous aka @sips.tea.designs made for me! If you have never seen yourself turned into art, it's a fun and flattering experience that I highly recommend to anyone! Be sure to follow @sips.tea.designs to be notified when she is taking commissions!
Emotions have been all over the place for the last Emotions have been all over the place for the last few days. It's overwhelming to think about all that we have been through this past year, these past four years, and before that. It's a relief to know that a fascist isn't in the white house anymore. However, it's tiring to think about the long road that lies ahead. There is still so much to be done to make this country a fair and equal place to call home. It's important to take moments to celebrate and moments to relax and reflect while we are on this long journey together. How did you relax this weekend?
Just a reminder that Black is Beautiful yesterday, Just a reminder that Black is Beautiful yesterday, today, and tomorrow. Black is Beautiful in every shade and in every country. Black Lives Matter and they always will. If you aren't an anti-racist who constantly lifts up Black people, then this is probably not the space for you.
I was in first grade when I realized that no one w I was in first grade when I realized that no one who looked like me had ever held the office of President or Vice President. My heart is filled with joy for the young people who will never know that feeling.
🙌🏽 🙌🏽
Please remember to stay safe this week! There are Please remember to stay safe this week! There are a lot of things happening in DC and all over the USA. Stay vigilant, stay away from people whenever possible, and stay home if and when you can! Also, remember that is it perfectly acceptable to celebrate tomorrow. These past four years have felt like a lifetime. We still have so many steps to take to make this nation a truly accepting, fair, and free place but let's hold on to the little happy moments along the way until we get there.
As a born and raised Orlandoean (is that what we s As a born and raised Orlandoean (is that what we should call ourselves?!) I haven't ever really experienced a winter season. I've enjoyed winter many times while in many different cities including, Edinburgh, London, NYC, and Boston. But I've never lived in winter day in and day out. After a week it was always time to fly home to my palm trees and theme parks. This winter is the first time that I am experiencing cold temperatures daily and often experiencing grey skies. It's only been about two weeks and I have to admit that it is a huge adjustment. But I am doing my best to embrace the season and stay as cozy as possible. I am used to being outside as often as possible in winter while hibernating with the A/C running all summer. So I guess now I will be reversing those habits and bundling up until spring gets here.
For my birthday I wanted one thing and one thing o For my birthday I wanted one thing and one thing only, @hipcityveg. Although I still miss all my favorite Orlando foodie places, I am so excited to finally be so close to a Hip City Veg location. It's my all-time favorite plant-based restaurant and I have been craving this vegan milkshake for months! If you haven't been yet and you are in DC or Philadelphia, go right now!
I'm currently reflecting on a very wild year. This I'm currently reflecting on a very wild year. This last trip around the sun was during a very difficult time in our world but I can't personally complain much about the last 365 days. I thought I would be taking over as the lead on a contract at a Disney hotel as their main wedding photographer. I had been photographing weddings there for years but covid had other plans. Instead, I watched as the entire world shut down around me, only for the hotel to reopen as a part of the NBA bubble. So I decided to jump headfirst into running a product-based business. It's something I wanted to do for years and yet I could never quite seem to muster up the nerve to fully go after that dream. I launched my first collection of candles, sold out in days, and things have been steadily growing since then for @kismetandcharisma. After finally going after my dream of switching from service-based to product-based, I co-founded a nonprofit. This has been a dream of mine since I was a little girl and the stars finally aligned to bring it to light. Along with my best friend, Anna, I co-founded @LoveDoesntHurtInc. It has already healed me in ways I never thought possible and I can't wait to see what our nonprofit does for other people. I also consistently recorded @heartandhustlepodcast all year alongside my ride or die, @studio404design. Outside of work, I adopted the sweetest little pup ever as a present for my husband's quarantine birthday (best present ever). I didn't finish writing my own book but I managed to read quite a few other books. I battled anxiety as usual but I managed to learn when to turn the news off and FaceTime a friend instead of continuing to doomscroll. I also convinced my husband to leave OCPS to work for a school district that would like to keep him alive during the pandemic, which resulted in us relocating to the DC area. Here's hoping that this trip around the sun is filled with the same amount of professional success but WAY more hugs.
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Uncategorized · November 20, 2013

Competition and Comparison

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Comparison is The The Thief of Joy Print from MulberryPress

We live in a society that constantly encourages competition and comparison. Women especially are encouraged to be more attractive than their friends, a better cook, craftier, nicer, and just better in any way imaginable. Whether it is comparing boobs or books read, many women constantly compare themselves to others.

 

You don’t know that person’s strengths, weaknesses, or history.

What many people forget when they are comparing themselves to others is that they have no idea where that person started out or what all their strengths and weaknesses are. The boss you compare yourself to may get more vacation time and a better salary but they also may have had to work weekends for years to get to where they are now. Maybe your neighbor is in perfect shape but she also may not be as good at painting as you are. Maybe your coworker just won employee of the month but maybe they had to sacrifice a lot of time with their significant other to win that title. Everyone has a different story when it comes to meeting his or her goals in life. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. No one has a life that is completely perfect.

 

You don’t know that persons insecurities.

It is very possible that the people you are comparing yourself to may wish they were better at some of the things that you are amazing at. Everyone has their own insecurities. Even the most beautiful and successful people among us find themselves feeling insecure from time to time. It is fine to feel that way every once in a while but it is important to quickly remember that you are an amazing individual with a unique skill set to offer the world.

 

The competition is in your head.

In our social media obsessed world, it is easy to look up what our peers or others in our industry are up to and compare ourselves to them. So many people get locked into an imaginary competition with people they have never even met in person but may follow on twitter or instagram. At the end of the day, the competition is all in your head. If you are not rocking the best outfit next time you are out with your friends, life will go on. If your coworkers numbers are higher than yours this week, you can still turn things around the following week. Just because some of the moms at your school always look put together, doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you not looking perfect all of the time. If you have personal goals that are important to you, focus on those goals instead of focusing on other people. Whether or not they reach those goals before you does not change your chances to meet them or the satisfaction you should receive after meeting them. The more time you spend in an imaginary competition, the less time you can actually spend getting better.

 

Compete with yourself.

It is often said that the only person you should be competing with is yourself. At the end of each day, your time would be better spent focusing on yourself than others. If at the end of each day, you have become better than you were the day before, then you are making great progress. Becoming the best version of yourself means honestly admitting where you are with your goals and working every day to bridge the gap from who you were yesterday to who you will be tomorrow.

 

 

Chances are you are already pretty great so focus on what you love about yourself, change what you don’t love, and work everyday to be the best version of you that you can possibly be. After all, there is no one on earth who is better than being you than you!

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Happy Monday! I am obsessed with this illustration Happy Monday! I am obsessed with this illustration that the talented and gorgeous @callmeadventurous aka @sips.tea.designs made for me! If you have never seen yourself turned into art, it's a fun and flattering experience that I highly recommend to anyone! Be sure to follow @sips.tea.designs to be notified when she is taking commissions!
Emotions have been all over the place for the last Emotions have been all over the place for the last few days. It's overwhelming to think about all that we have been through this past year, these past four years, and before that. It's a relief to know that a fascist isn't in the white house anymore. However, it's tiring to think about the long road that lies ahead. There is still so much to be done to make this country a fair and equal place to call home. It's important to take moments to celebrate and moments to relax and reflect while we are on this long journey together. How did you relax this weekend?
Just a reminder that Black is Beautiful yesterday, Just a reminder that Black is Beautiful yesterday, today, and tomorrow. Black is Beautiful in every shade and in every country. Black Lives Matter and they always will. If you aren't an anti-racist who constantly lifts up Black people, then this is probably not the space for you.
I was in first grade when I realized that no one w I was in first grade when I realized that no one who looked like me had ever held the office of President or Vice President. My heart is filled with joy for the young people who will never know that feeling.
🙌🏽 🙌🏽
Please remember to stay safe this week! There are Please remember to stay safe this week! There are a lot of things happening in DC and all over the USA. Stay vigilant, stay away from people whenever possible, and stay home if and when you can! Also, remember that is it perfectly acceptable to celebrate tomorrow. These past four years have felt like a lifetime. We still have so many steps to take to make this nation a truly accepting, fair, and free place but let's hold on to the little happy moments along the way until we get there.
As a born and raised Orlandoean (is that what we s As a born and raised Orlandoean (is that what we should call ourselves?!) I haven't ever really experienced a winter season. I've enjoyed winter many times while in many different cities including, Edinburgh, London, NYC, and Boston. But I've never lived in winter day in and day out. After a week it was always time to fly home to my palm trees and theme parks. This winter is the first time that I am experiencing cold temperatures daily and often experiencing grey skies. It's only been about two weeks and I have to admit that it is a huge adjustment. But I am doing my best to embrace the season and stay as cozy as possible. I am used to being outside as often as possible in winter while hibernating with the A/C running all summer. So I guess now I will be reversing those habits and bundling up until spring gets here.
For my birthday I wanted one thing and one thing o For my birthday I wanted one thing and one thing only, @hipcityveg. Although I still miss all my favorite Orlando foodie places, I am so excited to finally be so close to a Hip City Veg location. It's my all-time favorite plant-based restaurant and I have been craving this vegan milkshake for months! If you haven't been yet and you are in DC or Philadelphia, go right now!
I'm currently reflecting on a very wild year. This I'm currently reflecting on a very wild year. This last trip around the sun was during a very difficult time in our world but I can't personally complain much about the last 365 days. I thought I would be taking over as the lead on a contract at a Disney hotel as their main wedding photographer. I had been photographing weddings there for years but covid had other plans. Instead, I watched as the entire world shut down around me, only for the hotel to reopen as a part of the NBA bubble. So I decided to jump headfirst into running a product-based business. It's something I wanted to do for years and yet I could never quite seem to muster up the nerve to fully go after that dream. I launched my first collection of candles, sold out in days, and things have been steadily growing since then for @kismetandcharisma. After finally going after my dream of switching from service-based to product-based, I co-founded a nonprofit. This has been a dream of mine since I was a little girl and the stars finally aligned to bring it to light. Along with my best friend, Anna, I co-founded @LoveDoesntHurtInc. It has already healed me in ways I never thought possible and I can't wait to see what our nonprofit does for other people. I also consistently recorded @heartandhustlepodcast all year alongside my ride or die, @studio404design. Outside of work, I adopted the sweetest little pup ever as a present for my husband's quarantine birthday (best present ever). I didn't finish writing my own book but I managed to read quite a few other books. I battled anxiety as usual but I managed to learn when to turn the news off and FaceTime a friend instead of continuing to doomscroll. I also convinced my husband to leave OCPS to work for a school district that would like to keep him alive during the pandemic, which resulted in us relocating to the DC area. Here's hoping that this trip around the sun is filled with the same amount of professional success but WAY more hugs.
Lately, I have been getting acquainted with some o Lately, I have been getting acquainted with some of the local coffee shops in DC and NOVA. You would never know that I don't like coffee by how often I am spending money in coffee shops. I do, however, love just about every tea I come across. Earthy, fruity, sweet, bitter, it doesn't matter. I love them all. Any other tea lovers out there? Do you like coffee and tea or just one or the other?

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