We receive hate, lies, injustice, and death. But We receive hate, lies, injustice, and death. 

But we deserve joy.

So many of us are reaching new levels of exhaustion because of the continued attacks on our community by those who are being paid to protect us. There are some days where our situation feels impossible. On those days, please take the time out to do one small thing that brings you joy. As Black people, we have to experience and carry so much trauma while living in this country. But we deserve joy. We deserve joy.
I’ve been spending every free moment chasing gor I’ve been spending every free moment chasing gorgeous blooms. I know they don’t last long so I’m trying to enjoy them as much as a can while they are here. It’s a great reminder to live in the moment and enjoy your life right now.
Lately I’ve been meditating, manifesting, and do Lately I’ve been meditating, manifesting, and doing a little bit of yoga before I even get out of bed. Yes, you heard that right, I do bed yoga. Doing these simple things before I leave the comfort of my bed have really been helping me feel like I can take on anything during the day. Do you do anything special in the morning that makes you feel more equipped to handle the day?
I’m so happy that the weather is consistently co I’m so happy that the weather is consistently cooperating and we can get out to explore more! I’m usually a homebody but being stuck inside this past winter has really made me appreciate every good weather day so much more than I ever have before. The best thing about being in a new city is that everything is new to me so even staying close to home feels like an adventure.
Drinking my way through Orlando with all the best Drinking my way through Orlando with all the best teas!🧋
Home is whenever I’m with you. 🤍🍵 @qreatec Home is whenever I’m with you. 🤍🍵 @qreatecoffee
Happy first day of spring! Most of the blooms aren Happy first day of spring! Most of the blooms aren’t out yet in the DC area but that didn’t stop us from spending every moment we could outside today. I am SO happy that winter is officially over and I can’t wait to twirl around under cherry blossoms in a few weeks.
Happy Gotcha Day @valkyrieambrosonokeefe! I truly Happy Gotcha Day @valkyrieambrosonokeefe! I truly don’t know how we would have made it through this year without you! You are the sweetest, happiest, cuddliest dog ever. 🤍🐾
Just out here searching for spring! It was here fo Just out here searching for spring! It was here for a minute but it disappeared! Here’s hoping I see weather in the 70’s (or at least the 60’s) sometime soon. 🌿🌤🌺
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Uncategorized · April 22, 2015

10 Things I Wish I Knew In My Early 20’s

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Not everyone benefits from college.

College can be a smart and helpful step for many people, but not everyone benefits from it. If you are going into a career where you will not be required to have a college degree, you may not need to go into debt for a degree. Many people who do go to college end up in different career fields and even more say that what they learned at school doesn’t apply to their actual job. I’m not saying college is a bad option; for many people it is a path that leads to success. Just be sure you are going to college because you want to and not because society is telling you that you should.

 

Time passes quickly.

The older you get, the more time flies. I am not telling you this to scare you, I am telling you this so that you will embrace the here and now! There is no time like the present to do all the things you want to do.

 

Being kind and positive won’t make everyone like you.

I used to try so hard to be nice to everyone, even if that person wasn’t nice in return. In my early 20’s, I had a really hard time with the idea that someone may not like me. If you are a kind, positive, happy person, don’t let anyone steal that joy from you. At the same time, remember that not everyone will want to share in your happiness, and that’s okay. There are plenty of positive people in this world. Spend more time around them and less time around people who don’t like you.

 

It’s easier to overcome anything with supportive people in your corner.

When my grandmother died when I was 21, I tried to go through that completely alone. I didn’t make the same mistake when my grandfather died when I was 27. Now I know how important it is to let my friends and family completely in when I need them. It’s okay to be vulnerable and it’s brave to ask for help. No one can do everything in life completely by themselves. Even Oprah has Gale.

 

Your friend group will change.

I still care deeply for all the people who were in my friendship circle in my early 20s. Many of those people are still in my group of close friends today. However, I have drifted apart from some of those friends as well. As you get older, people have children, careers change, moves happen, marriages happen, and even divorces happen. All these things will change your circle of friends over time.

 

Be open to new friendships.

Even though some of your friendships will change or come to an end. You should stay open to new friendships. You don’t meet all of your friends during your high school and college years. In fact, you will meet many new friends throughout your life and some of them you will instantly click with and wonder how you haven’t known them your whole life.

 

You will make mistakes.

You are not perfect. No one is perfect and no one expects you to be. Give yourself a break and love yourself the way you are. Make mistakes and learn from them. Don’t be afraid of not doing everything a certain way. Pave your own way.

 

Life is not fair. 

Sometimes, bad things happen to good people and there is nothing that we can do to change that. What we can do is focus on how to make the situation better. Things will happen to you or others throughout life that you do not think are fair. Learn to do what you can and move on.

 

Don’t let stress run your life.

From work to relationships to school and life goals, there are so many things in life to stress about. If you let it, stress will take over your life quickly. Find a way to relieve stress, whether it is meditation, working out, or some other healthy outlet. It’s completely understandable to be bothered by some things in life but you have to learn how to handle the stress that follows. Also, try not to sweat the small stuff. Most of what you are stressing out about now will not matter by this time next year.

 

Do what you want to do. Live your life for you.

You only get one life here on earth so don’t live it for anyone else. Your life is your own and you deserve to live a life that makes you happy. People who live their lives according to what their parents, friends, and society want instead of following their own path, normally end up regretting it. Anyone who wants you to be happy will support you following your dreams and aspirations in life.

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We receive hate, lies, injustice, and death. But We receive hate, lies, injustice, and death. 

But we deserve joy.

So many of us are reaching new levels of exhaustion because of the continued attacks on our community by those who are being paid to protect us. There are some days where our situation feels impossible. On those days, please take the time out to do one small thing that brings you joy. As Black people, we have to experience and carry so much trauma while living in this country. But we deserve joy. We deserve joy.
I’ve been spending every free moment chasing gor I’ve been spending every free moment chasing gorgeous blooms. I know they don’t last long so I’m trying to enjoy them as much as a can while they are here. It’s a great reminder to live in the moment and enjoy your life right now.
Lately I’ve been meditating, manifesting, and do Lately I’ve been meditating, manifesting, and doing a little bit of yoga before I even get out of bed. Yes, you heard that right, I do bed yoga. Doing these simple things before I leave the comfort of my bed have really been helping me feel like I can take on anything during the day. Do you do anything special in the morning that makes you feel more equipped to handle the day?
I’m so happy that the weather is consistently co I’m so happy that the weather is consistently cooperating and we can get out to explore more! I’m usually a homebody but being stuck inside this past winter has really made me appreciate every good weather day so much more than I ever have before. The best thing about being in a new city is that everything is new to me so even staying close to home feels like an adventure.
Drinking my way through Orlando with all the best Drinking my way through Orlando with all the best teas!🧋
Home is whenever I’m with you. 🤍🍵 @qreatec Home is whenever I’m with you. 🤍🍵 @qreatecoffee
Happy first day of spring! Most of the blooms aren Happy first day of spring! Most of the blooms aren’t out yet in the DC area but that didn’t stop us from spending every moment we could outside today. I am SO happy that winter is officially over and I can’t wait to twirl around under cherry blossoms in a few weeks.
Happy Gotcha Day @valkyrieambrosonokeefe! I truly Happy Gotcha Day @valkyrieambrosonokeefe! I truly don’t know how we would have made it through this year without you! You are the sweetest, happiest, cuddliest dog ever. 🤍🐾
Just out here searching for spring! It was here fo Just out here searching for spring! It was here for a minute but it disappeared! Here’s hoping I see weather in the 70’s (or at least the 60’s) sometime soon. 🌿🌤🌺
Happy Monday! Welcome to a new week. If last week Happy Monday! Welcome to a new week. If last week wasn’t your favorite, thankfully we have a new one. This week I’m looking forward to John’s birthday, Valkyrie’s gotcha day, and St. Patrick’s Day! What are you looking forward to this week?

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